Essays from what I'm learning.
I spend my days in conversations where people tell me things they don't say anywhere else. Writing is how I work it out. How I figure out what I actually heard, and what it means.
From time to time I share some of it here.
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Successful Is Not the Same as Chosen
You've built the company. Made the money. And somewhere along the way a strange question showed up. Not about the business. About whether the future you're building is actually the one you'd choose, if your past didn't get the deciding vote.
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The Space Where Change Dies
Most change doesn't fail because people don't know what to do. It fails in the twenty minutes after they do it. The old pattern makes its offer, and the discomfort of the new choice has to be tolerated instead of solved.
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Relief Is Not Recovery
Friday night arrives and you are done. Not tired. Done. You pour a drink, put on a show, sleep in Saturday. And Monday morning you are still tired. There is a difference between reducing pressure and restoring capacity, and successful people get very good at the first.
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Being Needed Is Not the Same as Being Valuable
Every problem finds its way to you. The calls, the decisions, the team that looks to you before it moves. Being needed feels like evidence. The problem is that confirmation and value are not the same thing, and a business organized around your necessity may be telling you two things at once.
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The Problem With Being Good at Your Job
The better you get at solving problems, the more problems arrive. At some point, being excellent at the job you've always done crowds out the job only you can do. That doesn't explain why you keep saying yes.
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The Life You Built and the Life You Want
The complete argument, in one piece. Success, the future you're predicted to want, what choosing actually requires, and what a different life asks of you. Longer than the others, and meant to be sat with rather than skimmed.
Read the essayIf something here stopped you, that's worth paying attention to.
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